SAEDNEWS: Husbands and wives should pay attention to the points collected in this section in order to build and maintain a warm and intimate relationship.
Couples who wish to build a warm and intimate relationship should pay close attention to their emotional, psychological, and physical readiness. The timing of sexual intimacy between spouses depends entirely on the mutual readiness of both partners and therefore differs from one couple to another. There is no fixed rule or specific schedule. However, the place where intimacy occurs — especially the bedroom — plays a major role in creating a relaxed, positive, and satisfying relationship.
The bedroom has two main functions:
first, to create calmness, emotional connection, and closeness between spouses;
second, to provide a private, stress-free space for intimacy.
For this reason, the bedroom should not be used as a storage room, office, television room, or place to read newspapers. Turning the bedroom into a workspace or entertainment room weakens its emotional meaning. Likewise, the bedroom should not be a place for arguments or conflict resolution — those should happen elsewhere. The bedroom should always remind the couple of pleasant, comforting memories.
Displaying pictures of deceased relatives, which may evoke sadness, is not recommended in the bedroom. The room should also be lockable for privacy. Some parents feel embarrassed to lock the bedroom door because of their children’s curiosity, but just as children are taught to knock before entering the bathroom, they should also be taught not to enter their parents’ bedroom without permission.
To avoid stress and anxiety, couples should secure privacy during intimacy, close curtains or blinds if the room has windows, and, if helpful, use soft music to prevent outside noise.
Couples are encouraged to:
Avoid placing televisions, radios, or phones in the bedroom.
Use calming colors and tasteful decorations that promote relaxation.
Keep the bedroom free from anger, conflict, and emotional tension.
Increase moments of affection by talking about pleasant memories, laughing together, and sharing enjoyable conversations.
There is no “perfect time” for intimacy — the best time is simply when both partners feel ready. The ultimate goal of marital intimacy is to strengthen closeness, emotional security, and stability in the relationship, and to create a warm, supportive environment for raising healthy and well-adjusted children.
Express appreciation.
Let your spouse know when you notice their efforts and hard work.
Send affectionate messages.
A kind text message can be simple, sweet, and surprisingly meaningful.
Take walks or go on small outings together.
Let nature refresh your mood. Talk, listen, and enjoy each other’s company.
Do one of their difficult or disliked tasks.
Choose a chore they usually avoid and do it for them — their reaction will speak for itself.
Pray for them.
Ask God to support them in their responsibilities, and occasionally let them hear your prayer so they know they are not alone.
Do not expect mind-reading.
If something matters to you, say it clearly instead of expecting your spouse to guess.
Give romantic cards or notes.
Do not wait for special occasions — leave a loving note somewhere they will find it.
Avoid spying.
If you want to know something, ask directly and honestly.
Laugh together.
Do playful, joyful things and use humor to soften small mistakes and reduce stress.
Talk about the future.
Share dreams about where you want to be years from now and work toward making them real.
Let the past stay in the past.
Forgive mistakes, avoid reopening old wounds, and accept sincere apologies.
Look into their eyes when they speak.
This shows interest, respect, and emotional connection.
Say “I love you” every day.
This simple phrase has a powerful emotional impact.
Share candle-lit meals occasionally.
Cook their favorite food, light candles, and focus on one another.
Praise them in front of others.
Let them hear you speak positively about them.
Worship or pray together.
Shared spiritual moments deepen emotional bonds.
Never criticize your spouse in public.
If correction is needed, do it privately and kindly.
