SAEDNEWS: The truth is that marriage is not suitable for everyone. Sometimes the time simply has not yet come; and very often, the person you have in mind is not the right one.
According to the Family Magazine Desk of Saad News, many young couples marry despite lacking clear and convincing reasons for doing so and without sufficient self-knowledge. After starting a family, they encounter numerous difficulties, and their problems may escalate to the point of divorce and separation. Therefore, it is better for each person to evaluate themselves before marriage and determine whether they are truly ready for this commitment.
If you are considering marriage, reading the following points may help you assess whether you are prepared to build a family or not.
Many people in their early twenties have not developed a deep understanding of themselves or their life goals. Although change over time is possible, if you currently lack self-awareness, it is recommended that you postpone marriage until you gain a clearer sense of who you are and what you want. Use this time to grow personally, enjoy your youth, and reach full emotional and intellectual maturity.
If you struggle with issues such as addiction, aggression, antisocial behavior, or unresolved psychological difficulties, you are not yet ready for marriage. A potential partner has the right to choose with full awareness and clarity.
The twenties are often a period of exploration, travel, and experimentation. If personal freedom and adventure are your main priorities, you may not be able to invest the time and stability required for a lasting relationship.
Building a family requires hope, enthusiasm, and emotional engagement. If images of married life, young couples, or children do not inspire you, you may not yet be emotionally ready for marriage.
If you cannot manage your emotions, frequently feel confused, or struggle to make consistent decisions, you are not yet prepared for marriage. A successful relationship requires balancing reason and emotion.
If you see no positive aspects in marriage, doubt its importance, or feel that solitude is far more appealing than sharing life with another person, then marriage is not the right step for you at this time.
If your idea of marriage revolves mainly around weddings, appearances, or social pressure — such as marrying simply because others have done so — you may lack the depth and readiness needed for a committed partnership.
If you constantly believe that “better options” might exist, or if past emotional wounds prevent you from trusting others, you are not emotionally available for marriage.
While everyone needs personal space, if you consistently prefer being alone and feel uncomfortable sharing your private time or living space, a serious relationship may not suit you yet.
If you have never lived independently, do not have a stable income, or cannot support yourself financially, you are not ready for marriage. Independence and responsibility are essential foundations for family life.
Some people marry simply to escape family problems. This often leads to repeating the same mistakes in a new form. Personal growth, education, and independence should come before marriage in such cases.
If you react emotionally to conflict, cannot tolerate disagreement, or do not know how to negotiate and resolve issues logically, you are not yet prepared for a healthy marriage.
If you lack initiative, avoid responsibility, depend excessively on others’ opinions, or cannot assert yourself, you may struggle to manage a shared life.
Marriage is built on understanding, flexibility, and mutual concession. If you insist on always being right or “winning” conflicts, marriage may become a source of continuous struggle.
Some people marry to increase their self-worth or to provoke jealousy in someone else. Such motivations indicate emotional immaturity and often lead to dissatisfaction and regret.
Marriage is not merely a social milestone; it is a psychological, emotional, and practical commitment. Entering it without sufficient self-knowledge, emotional maturity, independence, and relational skills can transform marriage into a serious personal and social mistake. True readiness for marriage begins with self-development, emotional awareness, responsibility, and the ability to build a respectful and cooperative partnership.
