Saednews: Nardi, at the counseling center, revealed his infidelity with the title "My wife was a nag, and I fell in love with a divorced woman at a party!"
According to Saadnews' social service, these are parts of the story of Fereydoun, a 42-year-old man with a tall stature and a tired face, who entered the counseling center and sat down to tell the story of his life.
He said: "Six years ago, I met my wife through a friend, and we got married. Now we have a five-year-old child. At the beginning of our marriage, everything was normal, but over time, my wife's family became deeply involved in our life. My wife became more and more nagging and distant. She constantly compared me to other male relatives, always complained, had endless demands, and no matter what I did, she was still dissatisfied."
He continues: "After every visit to her parent's house, our arguments escalated. Later, I realized that her mother and sisters' talks affected her mind. My work is independent, and at a friendly gathering, I met a woman named Katayoun; she had been divorced for two years and had no children. We were both suffering from a lack of affection. This relationship continued for about a year and a half. We chatted regularly, met occasionally, and became deeply attached."
However, this secret relationship did not last long before it was exposed. Fereydoun says:
"My wife had taken screenshots of my chats with Katayoun. At first, I tried to deny everything, but my wife angrily and loudly made the matter public, left the house, and went to her parents' home. Now she has filed a complaint against me and is not willing to continue the marriage."
Expert's Opinion
Ms. Soheila Faraji, a senior family counseling expert, in analyzing this case, says:
"The client, due to unmet emotional needs, lack of intimate connection with their spouse, chronic communication conflicts, lack of satisfying sexual relations, constant blaming, and humiliation, and ultimately reduced self-esteem, has turned to an extramarital affair. This person, due to strong emotional and sexual dependency and the lack of basic life skills, such as problem-solving and crisis management, was unable to find a healthier way to fill the emotional gaps."
She continues: "Unfortunately, many people, instead of dealing logically with marital problems, choose to escape reality and justify their behavior by blaming their partner. In this case, Fereydoun could have solved his problems with his wife by visiting a counseling center in time. Marital conflicts, even if intense, are solvable and never justify infidelity."
Final Advice
If a woman complains or a spouse behaves poorly, if a man is inattentive to his wife, none of these issues justify breaking the marital boundaries. Couples can visit counseling centers located at police stations, which offer free psychological services, to find the right path for improving their relationships. Sometimes, a simple piece of advice can prevent a serious crisis.
