SAEDNEWS: What to Talk About on a First Date: Tips for Making a Great Impression
According to the Psychology Service at Saed News, after evaluating someone according to your personal criteria, the next step is an in-person meeting, conversation, and deeper acquaintance. The first date is often one of the most stressful situations in life. This meeting can mark the beginning of a serious relationship—or a reason to reconsider moving forward. First dates are unpredictable; usually, the flow of the meeting determines the topics of conversation and the questions asked. However, it’s better to prepare yourself in advance. Experts recommend making a list of questions to ask during a first date. The questions below are some of the best you can ask your potential partner on your first romantic outing.
Pay close attention to how your date responds. Most people answer immediately with “my parents,” “my college roommate,” or “my children.” Their answer provides insight into their relationships and shows how skilled they are at forming close connections with others.
Research consistently shows that humor is a key trait people value in a life partner. Regardless of age or gender, everyone appreciates a partner who can bring joy to life. Learning what makes your date happy offers a glimpse into their personality and outlook on life.
Some may simply mention their current or past residences. But “where you’re from” is different from “where you live.” One’s hometown is where they were born, where their family lives, and where formative experiences shaped their personality. This question helps you understand their roots and cultural background.
This question may seem unusual, but it reveals differences in decision-making styles. Some research everything before a minor choice, while others act spontaneously. Knowing which category your date falls into can spark interesting conversation about how much preparation you put into your own choices.
We all have dreams at different stages of life—career growth, world travel, or artistic ambitions. Understanding your date’s dreams helps you see if your futures might align.
Leisure activities reveal a lot about a person. Someone who works constantly might be career-driven. Someone who coaches a youth soccer team likely enjoys sports and helping others. If your date mostly watches TV or plays video games, they may be more sedentary. This question is especially important if the relationship becomes serious, as shared leisure time will matter.
Psychologist Karl Menninger suggested that one key to adult mental health is a happy, low-stress childhood. While a difficult childhood isn’t disqualifying, it’s useful to see if someone is aware of and works to overcome past challenges.
A lack of enthusiasm can indicate low motivation, while answers like “traveling,” “hiking with kids,” or “prayer” reveal values and interests. Follow up by asking why they enjoy these activities.
Regardless of current occupation, most people have had at least one memorable or unusual job experience. Sharing your own experiences can make the conversation lively and test their storytelling skills.
Everyone has places where they feel relaxed—cafes, parks, mountains, or forests. Learning your date’s favorite spots helps you understand their preferences.
Ask this after introductions. Even a short answer gives insight into habits and personality—whether they’re a coffee addict or always order the same drink.
Instead of asking “What’s your favorite food?”, ask about the best meal. This invites stories about travel or personal experiences, not just food choices.
This playful question allows your date to share imagination and preferences in a lighthearted way.
This question encourages your date to talk about dreams, travel goals, career ambitions, exciting activities, or personal milestones—sometimes even humorous ones!
A fun, lighthearted question that also gives insight into culinary tastes and interests. It’s a great way to see if your palates match.
This reveals values and priorities. It could be a photo, a vintage car, or a keepsake. Don’t pressure them for an immediate answer—let it emerge naturally.
This helps you understand the people who influence and inspire your date, and what traits they admire in others.
This shows how your date perceives challenges and handles crises. Even humorous answers reflect resilience.
Listen more than you talk
Strong communication skills alone don’t make a good connection. The best conversations involve both sides actively participating. Think of conversation like tennis—you both need to hit the ball back and forth.
Take it slow
Getting to know someone is like peeling an onion—you need to go layer by layer. Avoid very personal or emotional questions on the first date. If the relationship develops, there will be plenty of time for deeper discussions.
Control your emotions
Some people underexpress emotions, while others overexpress them. Overloading a first date with emotion can create a negative impression. Excessive emotional display may indicate unresolved personal issues.
