SAEDNEWS: My husband is 30 years old and very flirtatious. He lies about even minor things. Sometimes he is always at work, and other times he doesn’t go at all. How can I deal with him effectively?
Question:
My husband is 30 years old, very social, and lies about small matters. Sometimes he is always at work, and sometimes he doesn’t go at all. How should I handle this?
Talk openly with your husband, approach the situation with intelligence, and try to understand the pleasures he experiences with his friends. If possible, you might be able to provide some of those experiences yourself. What makes socializing enjoyable is often the sense of freedom from daily worries and stressful thoughts.
However, if your leisure activities together are not fulfilling in this way, stay alert. If your husband’s friends are not ethically trustworthy, or you are concerned about issues like addiction, seek support from people you trust.
Also, consider your husband’s life before marriage. If he has always been highly social, he may need guidance in adapting to shared life skills, learning how to balance friendships, and managing social interactions responsibly. Understanding these factors will help you determine how best to address the situation.
It would help to give examples of the occasional lies. First, identify the situations in which your husband lies. Sometimes, our own behavior encourages others to hide the truth. How you respond to honesty from your partner is crucial. If you react with anger or illogical arguments, he may feel compelled to offer excuses rather than truth.
Everyone needs the skill to balance different aspects of life, including you and your husband. Your presence and support are essential. When you started married life together, you committed to being alongside each other through challenges. Problems are resolved more effectively when you act with your spouse, not against them.
To create balance in life, first recognize the obstacles. These can include:
Lack of clear goals
Constantly shifting focus without direction
Insufficient knowledge in relevant areas
Poor life planning
Low responsibility, which disrupts balance
1. Assess Your Current Situation
Review what you have done so far and identify areas where you have strayed from balance.
2. Define Your Goals
Make a list of your goals and prioritize them. Be precise and clear about what each goal entails.
3. Plan Again
Based on your priorities and past actions, create a detailed, practical plan. Focus on each step carefully.
4. Understand All Aspects of Your Life
Know your interests, responsibilities, skills, and needs, but don’t let them control you. Recognizing them allows you to address them effectively when needed.
